Honesty In Relationships

Healthy relationships have a lot of honest self-disclosure. The topic of honesty comes up enough in our clinical settings that it is worth exploring deeper. This post offers a sort of primer on things that relationship experts would encourage you to consider around honesty and self-disclosure. This is the kind of relationship advice a professional relationship counselor would give to you.

How honest should someone be in a relationship?

The short answer is that relationships are definitely more fulfilling when you and your partner are able to be almost completely honest. There are huge, priceless benefits of being more honest in relationships. One could say that honesty is at the foundation of any healthy relationship. A goal in your relationships could be to honestly self-disclose your true self to your partner.

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4 Replies to “Honesty In Relationships”

  1. I think some people just feel more relaxed when they are being honest even if it’s otherwise small disclosures. It helps some to be open, even about things that aren’t important to their partner. It’s interesting to be in a relationship and notice the different honesty levels that each person can have. I think accepting that you are with someone who isnt so apt to be open, is helpful if that’s the case. In other words, people define honesty in a marriage/relationship in their way. Some may think its ok to not disclose their total spent…while others don’t feel right about keeping it to themselves. Accepting your partner’s level of honesty and not expecting them to equal your level is helpful. With major honesty topics its understandable to expect to receive genuine openness from your partner. Its again important, I think, to accept you may not get the honesty level you give even with big issues. I think seeing we are seperate people from our partner, no matter how we define our union/marriage is helpful so we can relax and accept the only honesty we have any control over is our own. Wish them well with their honesty stuff. I think one’s honesty is a part of one’s journey. Its not for the partner to try to control.

    1. You are on point, ‘today’.

      If someone is willing to be vulnerable to their truth, they seem to encounter less torential relationship storms. Ultimately, one can find calmness in being courageously truthful.

      Thank you for bringing up the importance of being compassionate towards a less honest partner. Dishonest responses are sometimes motivated by a persons fear of being hurt. It’s hard to be honest.

      A willingness to be honest, as you say, is something one learns on their journey of discovery. Correct, the partner doesn’t control it.

      Thus, compassionately discuss with your partner what type of treatment you are interested in. Give them space to grow into being more vulnerable.

      Your thoughtful input has reminded me again of the importance of compassionately setting limits about what you want and need.

      Thanks ‘today’.

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